One of the things I ask as an icebreaker on antenatal courses is for people to share their name and, if they know, what it means and why it was chosen.
More often than not people know neither. When I was pregnant with my son we spent a lot of time considering the name. We had a girls name all picked out - Daisy (after my husband's grandmother) George (after my grandfather) Parker (my husband changed his surname just before our son was born to reflect his maternal lineage). Daisy George Parker was not to be and we had a boy! Baby Parker as he was known for the first few days of life soon became Calum (no idea where that came from) Edward (after my childhood teddy bear) Parker - a name that has served him well (he's almost 20 now). I've made sure to share this story with him. It was a positive exploration between me and his father and was one of the most significant things we did as parents.
I know many, if not all, parents choose the names of their children carefully. Whether they are teachers who associate certain names with particular children they have taught or whether it's the name of an aunt, family friend or one they've heard and thought 'yes we like that' the names we choose are important in that moment.
Occasionally though, the name isn't right for a lifetime and as we get older we find we no longer relate to it or perhaps it carries the weight of disharmony and conflict.
For those of you who have known me as Samantha (my birth name) I have decided, for very personal reasons, to change it. So do not be confused as you see Fleur on my website, emails, blog, facebook, tweets etc from now on. It's a positive and wonderful thing.